Don't let yourself be used

Dating an ambitious guy

Within the first few dates an ambitious guy will typically open up to you about his dreams and plans. There is nothing wrong with a guy who wants to grow into a better person, just make sure that he's genuine. If you become the person who always pokes holes in his plan, you become his adversary. But this should never trump the responsibilities of a relationship or take precedence over family obligations. They love dates and surprises just like the next girl.

Some men with no ambition whatsoever like to talk up a good game, but at the end of the day, they are just saying what they know women want to hear. No man is more important than your friends. You are his partner, not his maid. Choose a man who knows the difference.

And ambitious men are turned on by women who encourage their ambition. The person who adores him for what he does, but also is there to push him further when he feels like quitting or when things are tough. But men who are constantly suggesting that they want to just stay in and watch a movie early on in the dating game are likely the lazy type, or only out for sex.

There is nothing wrong with a

There's nothing wrong with sitting on the couch and watching sports. They just want to know you care about something that matters and are willing to work for it. Suggest ways he can get there quicker, or just go ahead and take the initiative to do something that will help push him forward. They just want to be with someone who will love them for who they are, and never ask them to stop following their dreams.

This will likely never happen. If he truly cares about you, his good behaviors will grow stronger. Again, you are not his maid.

The idea of playing backseat to their companion is nauseating to an ambitious girl. They know how to handle themselves. If you like them, do something about it. Assuming that he will eventually change and open up to your hobbies is misguided.

Men are strongly driven to succeed by fantasies of sex and power and even the latter I imagine is desired as a route to the former. But in their minds, the most romantic thing in the world is being with someone who they can truly relate to, and someone who supports them in everything that they do. Always play close attention to how a guy's behavior changes once he has had sex with you for the first time.

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These men will only become more rigid over time. But anyone who has been working for a couple of years and still lives with his mother past this age is never going to grow up. Ambitious girls are strong, confident, and intelligent. You being strong and determined in your own life is going to be sexy to him. Expecting a home cooked meal every single night makes for a relationship that will likely feel unbalanced in the long run.

Two months later, he's not sure about either. Be very wary of men who talk up a big game of what they plan on doing with their lives. There should be contributions from both parties, even if that contribution isn't always evenly divided.

If his plan sounds enormous i. Dating someone who refuses to do anything new makes for a long-term relationship that is both boring and one-sided. This will only get worse over time. Many men break out all the stops early on in the dating process, but by the fifth of sixth date, the laziness starts to creep in. Sometimes this is shameless bragging.